From the Rocky Mountains of Colorado to the sun-soaked beaches of Hawaii, from the rugged deserts of Arizona to the bustling streets of London, my life has been a journey of constant change and adaptation. Each chapter of my story has lasted about seven years, a cycle of growth and transformation that has shaped who I am today. But the biggest leap came when, at 18, I packed my bags and moved across the world to Italy for university, and then again at 20, when I moved to London. This blog post is a reflection on my journey and the lessons I’ve learned about independence, courage, and the strength it takes to carve your own path. 

Growing Up in Three States: The Foundation of Independence 

Living in Colorado, Hawaii, and Arizona for seven years each gave me a unique upbringing. The breathtaking landscapes of these places offered me different perspectives on life and nature, but it was my family that instilled in me the values of independence and resilience. My parents encouraged me to explore, to question, and to be self-reliant. Whether it was navigating the vastness of Colorado’s mountains, embracing the laid-back culture of Hawaii, or thriving in the harsh beauty of Arizona’s desert, I learned to adapt to new environments with ease. This upbringing was crucial when, at 18, I made the decision to move to Italy for university. Moving to a foreign country on your own at such a young age is daunting, but I was prepared. I had been taught to be independent, and I knew that this was the next step in my journey.

Italy at 18: A Leap Into the Unknown 

Italy was everything I dreamed it would be—rich in culture, history, and beauty. But living in a new country, especially one with a different language and customs, was challenging. The first few months were a whirlwind of excitement. The language barrier was tough, and I had to learn to navigate a new education system while trying to build a life from scratch. But I knew I had the strength to overcome these challenges. My upbringing had taught me the importance of perseverance. I threw myself into my studies, and made friends from all over the world, and gradually, Italy began to feel like home. The experience taught me the importance of being open to new experiences, of stepping outside your comfort zone, and of trusting in your own abilities.

London at 20: Finding My Place in the World 

Two years later, I moved to London to continue my education. By this point, I was familiar with the process of starting over in a new place, but that didn’t make it any less challenging. London was different from Italy in every way—faster, busier, and more competitive. I was no longer the wide-eyed teenager who had first left home. I was now a young adult, determined to make the most of my time in one of the world’s most vibrant cities. Living in London on my own was a test of everything I had learned so far. It required a level of independence and maturity that I had been cultivating for years. There were times when I didn’t see my family for a year, which was difficult, but it also reinforced the importance of building a support system wherever you are. I learned that it’s okay to ask for help, to seek out friendships, and to lean on others when needed. 

The Psychology of Moving Alone: Strength and Resilience 

Psychologically, moving to a new country on your own requires a great deal of resilience. Studies have shown that people who are able to relocate to foreign countries by themselves often possess high levels of adaptability, openness to experience, and emotional stability. These traits help them to cope with the stress and challenges that come with such a significant life change. Moreover, the experience of living alone in a foreign country can lead to increased self-confidence and personal growth. It forces you to rely on yourself, to make decisions independently, and to navigate complex situations without the immediate support of family and friends. These experiences can be incredibly empowering, but they also require a strong sense of self and a willingness to embrace uncertainty. 

Tips for Moving to a New Country Alone 

 If you’re considering making a similar move, here are some tips to help you along the way: 

 1. Do Your Research: Before moving, learn as much as you can about your new country—its culture, language, and customs. This will help you feel more prepared and reduce culture shock. 

 2. Build a Support Network: While it’s important to be independent, having a support system in your new country is crucial. Make an effort to connect with people—whether through university, work, or social activities. 

 3. Be Open to New Experiences: Embrace the new culture and be willing to step out of your comfort zone. The more you immerse yourself in your new environment, the quicker it will start to feel like home. 

 4. Take Care of Your Mental Health: Moving to a new country can be isolating, so it’s important to take care of your mental health. Find ways to stay connected with loved ones back home and seek out activities that bring you joy. 

 5. Trust Yourself: Finally, trust in your ability to handle the challenges that come your way. Moving to a new country is not easy, but it’s also an incredible opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Conclusion: The Power of Independence 

 Looking back on my journey, I’m proud of the person I’ve become. Moving to different countries alone has been one of the most challenging and rewarding experiences of my life. It’s taught me the importance of independence, resilience, and courage. While there have been difficult moments, the experience has also been incredibly empowering. I’ve learned that I’m capable of more than I ever imagined, and that, no matter where I go, I can create a life that is rich, fulfilling, and uniquely my own. If you’re considering taking a similar leap, know that it’s not easy, but it’s worth it. The journey will shape you in ways you can’t yet imagine, and you’ll come out stronger, wiser, and more confident in your ability to navigate whatever life throws your way.